Change needs routine. It sounds contradictory, but in order to make a necessary change you have to make it a habit. In order to make something a habit you have to do it 21-28 days consecutively (thats actually a fact FYI).
I have mentioned how I am sick of feeling trapped in the same cycle of things, and I need to make a change. And while talking to a friend about this, she compared her situation to mine. I have no constant distractions from my present situation, and she has too many. I do basically the same things every day, and she isn't even always in the same country every week! But we realized neither of us are making our change routine. I keep doing the "same shit different day" routine, and she keeps doing the "I have no routine" routine.
We haven't made our change a habit.
Change is scary, even if it is a change you desire, because it shifts our routine up. Humans are made to adapt as we are creatures of habit, so when we fall into a bad place, parts of us adapt to the circumstances, and that is what makes it difficult to change back.
I also think we are creatures of the "slow fade". I rarely see someone slowly fade into a good thing. It can happen, but I wouldn't call it the majority. The majority of us slow faders gently glide into less than desirable situations and then one day wake up and get the "omg how did I get here" moment. We want to immediately jump back into the before, but we can't. It is like a slide. We easily slide down, but once we realize we are at the bottom and don't like it, we can't just slide back up. We have to climb.
Climbing is going to mean we need to make that change, or continue sitting at the bottom. Make change routine. Make it a habit. If doing positive things that are good for me was a normal part of my routine (like it was before), I would be just peachy.
If I am going to be a creature of habit, I want my habits to be excellent ones.
It's like the story of the frog...try to put a frog into a pan of HOT water, and he'll jump right out. But put a frog into a pan of room temperature water, then slowly raise the temperature, he won't realize the heat is rising until it's too late, and he's cooked. I hear you about changing. I've wanted to change myself for years, but if I don't do the hard work to MAKE and KEEP the change, then I'll remain as I am. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and ask God what you need to do to become the woman He meant you to be! Sending love your way...
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