Just a thought.....
I get confused about value and other people understanding the value of things. These "things" mostly being people.
And I think this is the problem:
I am expecting, or maybe just assuming, that such people understand the value of....hmmm, let's use Burberry for examples sake. They understand what it is, what it cost, and what it represents.
But the rude awakening is...they don't. They are still stuck in the mindset that Hollister is cool and what everyone is wearing....
Sooooooooo, they really have no idea what the hell Burberry even is and because of that is has no value to them.
One day they will realize that they threw away a Burberry wallet for a Hollister sweater and it does not make the wallet worth a penny less because of their ignorance.
I am going to stop feeling bad or confused about myself just because someone can't recognize quality.
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Live the Life You Choose..???
I was thinking tonight about "living the life you planned", or things going the way we plan them to. Then I thought about the saying "live the life you choose". But, the "life we choose" IS the life we "planned", right?
My life has not gone the way I would have planned by a traditional standard. I have said so many times while telling the story of me, "I did not plan for (enter a millions different things here) to happen". So, I guess I would say I am not living anything that was planned.
But I realized, I am living the life I chose.
We never expect for things to not go according to the plan. It's like we make plans that don't allow for any detours. A detour means your plan failed. But I think life is like maps. There is more than one way to get there. Who cares that you didn't go the way everyone thought you should. You didn't go all highway and it took you longer, but you got the scenic route instead.
I AM living the life that I chose. I chose the people and actions that landed me exactly where I am right now in this moment. I did not "plan" for what would happen if these people and things went left instead of right. But sometimes they do, and then we play victim. I am living a life a victim of my own choices. If I don't like it maybe I should make better ones.
My plan is to make the best choices possible and roll with the changes, taking full responsibility that just because what I chose didn't go the way I assumed it was doesn't change that I CHOSE it.
So far in my life the things I thought were the worst left turns ever have brought me to the best destinations. Much much better than I could have planned :)
My life has not gone the way I would have planned by a traditional standard. I have said so many times while telling the story of me, "I did not plan for (enter a millions different things here) to happen". So, I guess I would say I am not living anything that was planned.
But I realized, I am living the life I chose.
We never expect for things to not go according to the plan. It's like we make plans that don't allow for any detours. A detour means your plan failed. But I think life is like maps. There is more than one way to get there. Who cares that you didn't go the way everyone thought you should. You didn't go all highway and it took you longer, but you got the scenic route instead.
I AM living the life that I chose. I chose the people and actions that landed me exactly where I am right now in this moment. I did not "plan" for what would happen if these people and things went left instead of right. But sometimes they do, and then we play victim. I am living a life a victim of my own choices. If I don't like it maybe I should make better ones.
My plan is to make the best choices possible and roll with the changes, taking full responsibility that just because what I chose didn't go the way I assumed it was doesn't change that I CHOSE it.
So far in my life the things I thought were the worst left turns ever have brought me to the best destinations. Much much better than I could have planned :)
Friday, May 25, 2012
I forget
I feel like I've forgotten a lot of stuff. I don't remember how to write anymore or something. I lost my love for it? Or forgot how to love it? I also feel like I don't remember the things I used to like or I don't have the same passion for them maybe?
Here's my question: How do you know when you've actually lost sight of yourself or when you are just outgrowing your old dreams/interests/passions?
As we grow and mature and gain experiences I would agree with the theory that it is normal for our interests and goals to do the same.
But how do we know if that is what is happening when we forget the things we used to like or if it is something else? What if I am swallowed up in so many other forced ideas from other circumstances that I have forgotten how to remember my own?
It becomes easy and understandable to everyone how one can lose themselves or choose not to follow a dream when life gives situations that are out of your control. But how long can you use that as a reason why? Even if life throws in an unexpected stop sign, its still just 3 Mississippi and then you can go. I feel as if I have become paralyzed at one of lifes unexpected stop signs and I have not moved forward because I have forgotten where I am going.
Here's my question: How do you know when you've actually lost sight of yourself or when you are just outgrowing your old dreams/interests/passions?
As we grow and mature and gain experiences I would agree with the theory that it is normal for our interests and goals to do the same.
But how do we know if that is what is happening when we forget the things we used to like or if it is something else? What if I am swallowed up in so many other forced ideas from other circumstances that I have forgotten how to remember my own?
It becomes easy and understandable to everyone how one can lose themselves or choose not to follow a dream when life gives situations that are out of your control. But how long can you use that as a reason why? Even if life throws in an unexpected stop sign, its still just 3 Mississippi and then you can go. I feel as if I have become paralyzed at one of lifes unexpected stop signs and I have not moved forward because I have forgotten where I am going.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Untitled.
Im not sure what to call this one. I haven't blogged in a while. Since September I turned 26, went to the FSU-OU game and met someone wonderful, watched my brother get married (and DJ'd it thankyouverymuch), had the worst wisdom tooth extraction that led to 3 root canals in the the adjacent tooth and also included a piece of bone birthing its self out of my gum, found a house signed a lease and moved, and then dealt with the annual curse we like to call "The Holidays".
But now I guess I'm back ;)
I keep thinking about the way we argue with people. In any type of relationship you will come across some sort of conflict. There are different levels depending on many factors, but the one constant in all of them is how we make them go away. How do we deal with dissolving the issue and clearing the air between each other? The best of friends or spouses or even just business partners are those who can communicate well. I have met people in business that have almost nothing in common out side of the workplace, but they are thriving because they "work well together". This can't mean they never run into a problem. They must be able to communicate well and change their perspectives by keeping an open mind.
I think it is important to be able to see things from the other angle. I like who I am and the way I think, but I would be ignorant to assume that sometimes there isn't a better way of doing or thinking about something. Occasionally my viewpoint is going to be the fresh perspective that the other person needed and other times it's not. Not being able to communicate through issues in a relationship where one or both parties are not willing to adjust their perspective is like dropping rocks in to a glass of water. That issue is not going to go away. When you look back at past relationships where the communication during a negative situation was unhealthy, your cup is just full of rocks that eventually ended the whole thing. I feel like I hear people say "Oh, there was these few big issues that we fought about constantly and then it just became every little thing.". Little rocks don't dissolve any easier than big ones do. Things don't just "go away".
But being able to listen and hear each other and change our perspective is like dropping alka-seltzer into the glass: it dissolves. The issues will never stop coming because we are not perfect, but what does it matter if we know we can handle it? I can look back and my water is clear with that person. Everything was able to dissipate between us and the connection remained healthy.
I want to learn how to dissolve my issues throughout my life and learn what I can about myself while I do it. I am interested to hear how other people think about something, even if its something I've done. I think about the experiments they do in psychology where they show many different people the same picture and ask them to describe what is going on. Almost everyones answers are completely different, or the same idea worded differently. There are so many ways to look at the same thing, and I am open to hearing about all of them.
But now I guess I'm back ;)
I keep thinking about the way we argue with people. In any type of relationship you will come across some sort of conflict. There are different levels depending on many factors, but the one constant in all of them is how we make them go away. How do we deal with dissolving the issue and clearing the air between each other? The best of friends or spouses or even just business partners are those who can communicate well. I have met people in business that have almost nothing in common out side of the workplace, but they are thriving because they "work well together". This can't mean they never run into a problem. They must be able to communicate well and change their perspectives by keeping an open mind.
I think it is important to be able to see things from the other angle. I like who I am and the way I think, but I would be ignorant to assume that sometimes there isn't a better way of doing or thinking about something. Occasionally my viewpoint is going to be the fresh perspective that the other person needed and other times it's not. Not being able to communicate through issues in a relationship where one or both parties are not willing to adjust their perspective is like dropping rocks in to a glass of water. That issue is not going to go away. When you look back at past relationships where the communication during a negative situation was unhealthy, your cup is just full of rocks that eventually ended the whole thing. I feel like I hear people say "Oh, there was these few big issues that we fought about constantly and then it just became every little thing.". Little rocks don't dissolve any easier than big ones do. Things don't just "go away".
But being able to listen and hear each other and change our perspective is like dropping alka-seltzer into the glass: it dissolves. The issues will never stop coming because we are not perfect, but what does it matter if we know we can handle it? I can look back and my water is clear with that person. Everything was able to dissipate between us and the connection remained healthy.
I want to learn how to dissolve my issues throughout my life and learn what I can about myself while I do it. I am interested to hear how other people think about something, even if its something I've done. I think about the experiments they do in psychology where they show many different people the same picture and ask them to describe what is going on. Almost everyones answers are completely different, or the same idea worded differently. There are so many ways to look at the same thing, and I am open to hearing about all of them.
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